How do you see yourself in your mind? Olympic athletes use visualization when preparing for their event. Not only do they visualize the win but they visualize the obstacles they will encounter during the event and how they will move effectively through each. By seeing what they may encounter, they are setting the stage for success by coming prepared; they know defeat isn't an option. They didn't make it to the olympics by saying,"I can't do this; its too hard."
Does this mean we have to be, train, or compare ourselves to olympians? No, but we can learn from them. They spend time thinking about their goals and contemplate their actions ahead of time; we can apply this technique too.
When I first started out as a trainer, I couldn't do a pull-up. Honestly, I didn't believe I could. You don't see many women doing pull-ups and I knew women didn't have the muscle mass men do so I just put it out of mind basically. I didn't even consider it as a possibility.
One day though, I was walking through the gym and I saw a woman do 10 pull-ups, uninterrupted, in a row. I was amazed. She wasn't muscular looking or even skinny; she looked like a normal person. Witnessing her changed my life.
Once I saw it in my mind, it set the stage for being able to do them in real life. I began doing a pull-up (jumping at first) every time I passed the pull-up bar. The more I saw myself being able to do them, the more excited I got and the more I practiced. Before seeing it as a possibility, I didn't even try.
Do you see your goal as a possibility clearly in your mind? Can you see YOU possessing or being that goal? If you can't, it won't come to be. Your ego may trick you into thinking that you can see it clearly, so continue to check in with yourself. This combined with a good coach pushing you beyond your comfort zone to see and achieve more than what you can imagine is a winning formula.